Day 16.

I have realized that I am a very determined individual, and whenever I put my mind to things... they get done.
Period.
So, that leads me to believe that everything I aspire to be, have, possess! I will.

What a great day it has been, waking up .... let's leave it at that.
It was very ugly out today with it being March 31, 2011 and us experiencing a snow storm, like what the heck mother nature cut us a break.

It is a okay though because I am counting down the days until I am in Mexico on the beach sippin something lovely. :)

Today I also learned to value myself a lot more than ever, I never really understood the saying "your body is a temple until now". So with that said Thank You god

And hopefully there will be more excitement tomorrow.

p.s my booty challenge is going excellent I know im probably exaggerating as usual but I think it is def. growing ( doing the dougie) AYYYEEE go ash.

Day 15.

So apparently day 15 never happened. I just went on and on about how crazy people are, #sillyrabbittricksareforkids, frankie code 10 man down.... well you have no clue what I am talking about because blogger never posted it.

So, Dear blogger, you suck

I am not writing all that stuff all over again, make a long story short
Ash Bash is awesome and loves herself more than any man, woman, transgender, or animalever could.

That's all folks

Day 14.

This marks the two weeks today (since the beginning of the 30 :) and sorry I forgot to blog yesterday... it was not the greatest day.

So I guess it began when I forgot my phone going to school, thinking all my contacts to the world would be broken BOY was I wrong!!

LMAO when I got home I was greeted my a text from my sister saying, "I need some new kicks sissy any ideas" Thinking this cannot be the only person who thought of me today I thought maybe my phone was broken
Soon realizing no she was actually the only person who decided to shoot my a text all day I was beyond upset, but hey maybe that was a good thing

I soon did what I do best popped open a bottle and began to wonder what the hell my life is coming to... AWESOME progress huh?... two weeks into my moth challenge and I am stilld ealing with bullshit like this. Let's hope tomorro is better!!

Day 13.

Good Morning, and what a morning it has been.
Considering I just left work at 11pm and I am right back here at 7 am I am not too happy, but I guess its money so what am I complaining about?!?

I have been cussed out left and right this morning at no fault of my own, but I gues those are the perks of working in hospitality huh? :)
I did not go out at all this weekend... shocking!!! Maybe it's because I was working my life away lol but that has never stopped me before so IDK what it was. Maybe I am really slowing down, anyways I am seriously battling my conscious right now not to order any clothing off asos.com but I know this is one battle I will not be victorious. I honestly feel as if I need these 3 dresses and black pumps!
Matter of fact I deserve them! although I have bills up to my neck, I am actually making efforts to pay them so I think I can splurge a little... no?

With Mr. J being back in town, hopefully he will act right... remember the guy who's cousin got shot and I cussed him out for not calling, well he went on a new vaca and claimed when he gets back it will be 100% about us... PSHHH considering I have conditioned myself not to believe senseless words  but go solely off actions we will see

Keep you posted
Loving yourself... will conquer all other pain, including pain you thought would never go away.
It feels so good to finally wake up in the morning without you on my mind, all day everyday I would feel like crying not only for the pain you have caused me but also I for you, and although it has taken some serious time I am beginning to heal. So thankyou Samuel for all the BULLSHIT! because after I get through this 100% I am going to be one hell of a woman.

Day 12.

What a day what a day, so this morning I needed to go get my hair done, don't ask me why?!? Like I could not take it, maybe it was the MTG stuff but anyways I went, got dropped off and of course had to take public transportation back... LIKE WHAT THE EFF? can you tell I am spoiled lol

Well anyways at least I got what I wanted then of course I had to come to work.... well it is not too bad tonight at least I am not getting cussed out :)

Today marks the Grand Opening of my cousin's new boutique in atlanta!! I am so excited for her, her success is truly giving my the fuel to move to Atlanta, I have been really thinking about it but now I am determined so I am going to continue to make this money see about transferring schools and do it, hopefully I will be able to look back next year and read this 30 day challenge excerpt from my apt. in Atlanta ( sighing) wouldn't that be nice!

Question of the day? How much more blunt do you have to be to someone when you say do not call me anymore... perhaps I need to learn a couple other languages just to get my point across.

Although I am trying to rid myself of negativity it is like the plague lol just don't want to go away... guess I am going to have to take more extreme measures ;)

SMOOCHES!
p.s my Buffy the body workout is coming along awesome today my mother thought I had on Butt pads, I had to tell her uh uh giirrllll this is all natural ( talk about Miss New Booty huh?)

Day 11.

You know how they say at 11:11 your supposed to make a wish, well as the 11th day of my challenge I made a wish... can't tell you what it is but hope it comes true.

So, today I really did what I had to do, considering my legal woes I am not supposed to be driving so when I did not have a ride to class this morning and did not want to break any laws, what did I do?!?! Walked to the bus station and made use of public transportation ( Great Job Ashley) I know. I really sucked it up, and as I was walking, and talking on the phone my mother said you know Ashley I am very proud of you, because the old Ashley would have said, "well looks like I am not going to school today" and she was not lying. And I also had to take a cab to work. SMH BY FAR THE WORST EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE!
The cab I originally asked for was going to take 45 mins so I had to contact another service, which ended up having to send 3 cabs claiming each time they came and beeped no one came down which was completely false. So when one finally came the man was very rude, and the cab smelled as if there was a gas leak. Finally my couple minutes of hell was over and my total was $11.05 giving him a $20 and him only giving me $8.00 back I was sure to speak up letting him know he did not deserve that .95 tip and I would kindly give him a nickle for my dollar.

After that tourment was over I was soon met by more at work, I got cussed out lmaooooo something serious then hung up on. That's okay though because I prayed today and that gentleman better be happy or I could have very well lost my job

That's all.
Today also marked Day 1 of my total body transformation lol I will keep you posted. (buffy better watch out)

Day 10.

I woke up not wanting to get out of bed, as usual but soon enough I thought about how much I was in debt... so money called :)

The snow is def. putting a damper on my day ( blah blah) who cares... guess I will have to be the sunshine!

With a couple new ideas in mind I am putting things in overdrive...pretty vague huh... wondering what the hell I am talking about :)

Wait and see.

Till tomorrow

Oh yah this red is really making me feel like hottness. Blondes Do NOT have more fun. I beg your pardon

Day 9.

WOW what a day it was, sorry for not being able to write, it was soo busy and I wanted to be able to get all of it out!!! so I figure I would wait until today to dish, SO HERE GOES!!

Yesterday was my Real World audition, (I know too funny huh?) Everyone who knows me thinks I should have my own t.v show so I said here is the chance. So I left at about 9:30 am to begin my 2.5 hr ride to New Haven where the casting calls were being held. It was at a club called Toad's Place, very close to Yale. I had received a V.I.P pass to skip the line, which surprisingly when I got there did not exist; so the pass that I had in my possesion no longer made me feel special, and for some reason I did not think I still had the upperhand. Well anyways, they gave me a packet to fill out asking many questions from, my worst traits, to best traits, do I have a DUI? and a slew of other questions. After filling them out trying to be as honest and entertaining as possible I was told to join the crowd and wait. Immediately being drawn to a lot of other people (who were just as crazy as me) the time flew and pretty soon we were being called in groups of 6 to meet with the casting director who was crazy as hell might I add. I soon found out I was in the same group as Emilio... if your wondering who that is ( so was I) He was Snooki's former BF on the Jersey Shore, as well as Heidi and Spencer's old roomate... CRAZY HUH? After making it through the first round and having the casting director in stitches I was asked to stick around, and so was Emilio, a girl with webbed toes, and two others who I paid no attention to because my biggest threat at the time was EMILIO! with the director shooting a question out of no where would you rather be on the Bad Girls Club, because I am getting that vibe from you, you know we cast for them as well... NOT knowing what the hell to say I blanked hahah. Soon the second round was over Emilio found out he would not be able to appear on Real World b/c he just did "Love Faces" which airs in April, another girl advanced, and I knew my excursion was over.... After I had a nice talk and walk to the car with Emilio who encouraged me to try out for Bad Girls.... letting me know they get paid way more and I would be great for it ( hahah some agent he would make huh?)

Needless to say I was proud of myself for making it that far, and when I did not reeive the phone call last night as promised I was not upset... guess it just was not meant to be... Maybe that's a sign I should be a bad girl...;)

Day 8.

Woke up at 6:30 had to be to work at 7:00... late as usual. But for some reason I am still happy, I guess I am beginning to learn you cannot let one mishap or unfortunate event set the tone for your whole day. WHICH A LOT OF PEOPLE DO NOT UNDERSTAND!

But on a different note!! I am so excited. Tomorrow I have a very important audition ahead of me, and I did not want to tell anyone because I would like to stay humble and there still is a possibility I may be rejected.... then I would have disappointed myself and many others' so it is best to keep it on the hush hush! But for those reading please wake up tomorrow and say good luck ashley, and for those of you who don't... (here is my cockiness coming in) I DIDN'T NEED YOUR LUCK ANYWAYS!
Today, once I get off work I plan to take a "me" day. Get my nails done so I do not look completely crazy tomorrow, and maybe get some fake lashes put in... even though they friggin pull out my real ones' last time I got them done in N.Y about a month later when I took the extensions out I looked like I was suffering from alopecia ( so on second thought maybe I should stick with what I got)

Oh yah, remember how I said I had a memory like no other... so aside from the fact I deleted this nuisance out of my phone (I can't think of any other word to call him) I still decided to call him. I was bored of course. So with history continuing to repeat itself we get into an argument which for the first time truly leaves me feeling DONE! so I let him know in  the nicest way possible I cannot do this anymore and hang up. After saying BYE! for idk how many times and him still not accepting my farewell I hang up. Of course he calls right back like a mad man.... then the phone stops ringing. Thinking to myself he must have gotten the picture finally, I receive a text. AND GUESS WHAT IT SAYS!!!... your mother should have swallowed you... F**K OFF! Finding this only amusing for two reasons 1. Being he is about to be 26 years old and this is how he reacts to certain situations and 2. Being who really has time to download things like that to their phone to send in times of anger... No one with a life anyways.

(p.s) He was totally convinced I wanted something from him he claims I was living in a fantasy world...
So after him hitting my last nerve I had to do it... I spazzed. I said really though J**F, (he has a four letter name, not wanting to embarass him completely I will give you a hint :) )what do I want from you? Could it be the money?!?! yahh of course cuz your some kind of Bill Gates... or perhaps the beautiful mansion you live in?... Yah because I want to live with your parents and twin sisters... Or maybe the sex? NO that has to be it... It really was just the best thing ever that's why I can count how many times we have ever did it. HAHAH SO LOOKING BACK WAS IT ME REALLY IN A FANTASY WORLD?

what an IDIOT!

Day 7.

Wow, I can't believe already it has been a week since I began my so called, "30 day challenege"
at first I wanted to see if I could set goals and stick with them... considering the story of my life is me usually saying I am not going to do something then within hours I am back at it.

I feel good. I feel like I am re-gaining control. It was not too long ago when I honestly felt like I was stuck where I was and things were not going to change anytime soon, it sucked I woke up every morning with the same attitude, knowing I was going to face the same struggles as the day before with the same people... just everything was becoming so repetitive. SO I REALLY NEEDED THIS!. and the fact that I am able to record this experience makes it even better, I guess it is like personal diary in a sense.
Actually thinking about it I have always felt like I needed to have a lot of people around me , a lot of people liking me.... why I'm not to sure ( dr. phil would probably say I had a fear of being alone). And now realizing having a lot of so called "friends" usually brings you more stress than happiness, and those are not positive influences or relationships at all, those are the one's who you are better without.!

So here is day 7's commitment... to only engage in relationships both influenced by love and friendship that will only be of benefit and positivity.
After all that I have went through... and believe me it has been A LOT! I think I owe it to myself to be happy... and anyone else who can relate to me does as well, I think everyone should just start over. I mean it can't get any worse than it has probably already been :)

So here's a toast to new beginnings ( I know I know... no liquor). I guess cranberry will have to do.

Until tomorrow :)
(P.S)Hope everyone is enjoying this lovely snow... smh isn't it almost April?

Day 6.

GOOODDD MORRNING! I woke up feeling excellent today considering the fact that I got 3 hrs of sleep last night and may have had one too many! I must say I am loving the change I am making...

Story begins, and I decide to go out last night and of course I end up in providence, what else is new? With the fact that I never have cash and I am known as the "plastic queen" of course I forgot cash, and I needed to go to the ATM as I was standing in line. SMH to both the fact I would have to loose my place in this ridiculous line, and also SMH to the fact that I was even standing in line in the first place. So I sprint to a tattoo shop nearby and luckily they were open and had an ATM as well. Then guess what back to the line... So as I am freezing my booty pop off, trying to be patient, and These "MTO buffies" yes that is my new name for hoodrats, media takeout buffies lol because they are so entertaining but yet so sad, but anyways of course they wiggle their way through the line and stop behind me (I am truly convinced they stopped for 2 reeasons)... #1 Because I am not for that cutting ISH and I would have absolutely caused a scene  and had to snatch a BI**H... or #2 they wanted to annoy the hell out of me... WELL AT LEAST THEY ACCOMPLSHED ONE THING ! I heard all of their nonsense ranging from who's doing who... to black girls having "kinky hair" not nappy either way these buffies were saying way too much about nothing in my ear, and it took every fiber of my being to keep my composure; even considering they bumped me 2 times which I am convinced was done on purpose. But either way I did it, I have always questioned my self- control and how much of it I really have... and I bet my readers do too after reading confessionals of how I spaz-out the way I do, but finally  some good fortune came my way, I met some Africans from France who only spoke french and were intrigued by my beauty as well as the fact that I could say 3 some in french... what they failed to realize was I can also say it in 3 other languages and I would never do anything in a trio with them. Either way they let me cut them, and the coco-losos they brought for me was a nice touch too... So after denying everyone who came my way and finally conquering the Italian dude that was too cool for his own good! I stumbled out the club happy as ever, and up 1... guess im on my way back to building up they book ( either way IDC, im too focused on ONLY ME ME ME!, everyone else is irrelavent)

P.S (I found out the authenticity will always outweigh the fake )...lmao unfortunately

SELF CONTROL- IS THE KEY TO SELF DISCIPLINE!
As of 03-21-2011 I am back to life, all work no more play Vacation has been fun! Until tomorrow.

Day 5.

As I am standing behind my front desk watching the weather forcast from the breakfast room I can see it is going to be a cold day, as well as week -_-. Not what I needed to hear!
But on a brighter note I feel a lot less tense, yesterday I found out I would be able to get my license reinbursed... but of course a fee would apply ( SMH, I told you the world we live in is about nothing but money.) It would cost $1,075, and I would get a hardship license on May 4th, under the condition that my driving classes are completed, I get letters from my job and I pay a $500 reinstatement fee... At first I questioned myself is it worth it... Not realizing that no matter what I do, I would have to pay, and take the classes anyways in order to get my driving privilleges back I would just have until December to do it, when I would be eligible to get a real license. So the question is do I hustle and pay so I can be back on the road... or do I go a whole summer, fall, as well as some of winter without a license, depending on people to cart Miss Ashley around and be totally and completely miserable?... UM HELLO! looks like I will be on a tight budget until May because I need my life back.

After getting older, and seeing that life is not all peaches and cream I have realized sometimes you have to make sacrafices in order to get what you want. It's about being an adult and doing what you have to do, some fail to realize that and that is why they continue to exist the way they do, living paycheck to paycheck.. broke in order to keep up with the Jones' Thats's not how you do it... in my case I want to go without for a little bit so I can SAVE SAVE SAVE, and define the Jones' :)
It's better to aspire for greatness, and achieve, then dream big and settle for less.- Ashley que

p.s About that date... yah, it never happened Nile's Longe with the girls to smoke some Hookah sounded way more appealing than watching this dude eat and talk about the stock market, money, and cars (#rollseyes)

TIME TO GET ON THE BALL, and make it happen (until tomorrow!)

Day 4.

So, I lied whooppss yeah about me not drinking anymore that unopened bottle of Moscato is now empty, after 5 glasses 1 bubble bath and an argument later I soon regretted opening that bottle. But you know what they say there is no point in crying over spilled milk.
But on a brighter note, I woke up feeling great and the fact its absolutely gorgeous out today def. Adds to my bliss. I also want to note that XM: 62 is jammin' right now! Jagged edge, carl thomas... I love it
So I had court this morning... I want to say we live in such a corrupt society that does not care about anything but money which is rather unfortunate.I showed up a bit nervous I must admit fretting I would be brought up on serious charges judging from the tone of the letter, but that proved to be far from the truth all the wanted was me to pay some fines... So what I gathered after taking this all in was they basically threatened me so I would pay them... Isn't that illegal! Well anyways good thing I did not order those YSL heels I have been daydreaming about for the past 3 weeks or I would be completing the rest of my 30 day challenge from behind bars probably with a girlfriend named “BIG D” :(

Today which marks day 4 of my 30 day challenge will be dedicated to taking care of any debts that are owed. Anyone who knows me knows I hate to pay bills!! I know I know bad that I would. Rather shop that pay a bill smh well that is all changing considering this morning I was given no choice and basically threatened to pay a bill I am going to save everyone else the trouble and pay them sooo... Capital one, comcast, natinal grid the list goes on I have something very special coming your way.
I also have a hot date tonight with a not so hot man... Hopefully he is nice (I will def. Spill!)
Until tomorrow... New hair, new book, new feelings, and smart financial decisions It just keeps getting better!

Day 4M

Day 3.

Where to even begin, so yah I woke up 15 mins before I had to be to work smh, thank god I live literally down the street managing to only be 3 mins late ( go ashley go ashley)! That's only the beginning to my bad day, I get to work only to find my breakfast attendent calling out! Anyone who knows me best knows I cannot cook, so the fact I would have to cater, and cook for other people was a serious problem. So I did my best! After it was all said and done, it went horribly and I could hear guests complain of my food as I walked away :( SMH! (I mean would you expect a math teacher to know anything about science?)... NO! So as a front desk agent why would they expect me to cook... that explanation is one I cannot fathom

On a brighter note, Today is beautiful outside and it happens to be St. Patrick's Day a nice day to celebrate for the Irish and an excuse to drink for everyone else. BUT! not for me, Day 3. of my 30 day challenge, I have challenged myself to no longer drink for the next 27 days, so I guess I can kiss that unopened bottle of moscato in the wine rack goodbye! I would say trying to create a new lifestyle for myself would also mean riding my body of any toxins. True fact #237... I can remember any number after looking at it once, so although I deleted useless people out of my phone does not mean I can say the same about my brain, and the fact that I am notoriously known to drunk dial as well as text would probably add to the list of reasons why I should no longer drink, because I might forget about this 30 day challenge entirely and revert back to my old ways
New phonebook, New hair, No liquor... whats's next
Stay tuned for day 4

Day 2.

Who said redheads couldn't have more fun?
With my name usually being associated with spur of the moment decisions today was no different... I decided to GO RED!. why I do not know. maybe "Ri Ri's" F**k the world attitude as well as her hair color has rubbed off on me.

As day 2 of my 30 day challenge emerged... this morning I considered myself a boat. lol just hear me out.
I considered myself a boat with a hole in it... meaning I needed some fixing. And I had lots of cargo that was weighing me down and sinking my already no good foundation. I picture all the negativity surrounding me as the cargo... this includes guys who bring me nothing but stress, friends who are fueled by drama, and anyone else not looking to better themselves or does not share the same goal as me.. which is success!. So what do I say?, I say self ( lol how intellectual of me right?)... get rid of the cargo! So, What do I do I go into my outdated Samsung and delete all text messages both outgoing and incoming as well as any numbers that are not work, or family related. Then I wait, I wait to see who calls or texts me just to see how my day is going, and who really is interested in the well- being of Ashley and those are the ones who made it back into the book, as for everyone else. #KICKROCKS!. How will I ever be able to fix, or even begin to build a new foundation with all this dead weight I am bearing?... New hair, New epihanies, New beginning I guess... until tomorrow

(p.s) A man checking into my hotel... who was not cheating on his wife, but actually here on business suggested I be a model either it was him flirting or the red is pretty catchy!!! I can get used to this :)

DAY 1.

(LAWDAY MERCY) as my father would say with his over the top Jamaican accent
Yes I did it again, managed to get myself in yet another.... Rut I (guess would be the only appropriate word)

So, last year I was talking to a guy; who was really nice; he had goals was extremely outgoing, and the fact he could dress his A** off was an added addition. About a month and a half went by of continuous dates and everything seemed to be going okay ( well to me at least) One weekend I decided to go to N.Y with my best friend at the time and a couple days had passed and he did not call. Trying not to sweat it, it was still getting to me. So I called a couple of times no answer, sent a few texts STILL NO ANSWER! thinking this dude is really trying to blow me off and my ego being hurt more than anything. I proceeded to cuss him out via voicemail seeing as that was the only way he owuld hear my voice. and I let that be that, and figured I'd find a lil' N.Y thing to replace him ;)
I soon came home and recieved a blocked phone call, hesitant to pick up because ASHLEY and blocked calls have never been fond of eachother I deciede to anyways, and to my surprise it was the BPD and for those no too familiar with acronyms a.k.a Boston Police Dpeartment. They asked me would I be available to talk. With an episode of the first 48 running through my mind scared SH*TLESS all I could think was what did I do? Upon entering the interrogation room I was sat down and informed that the "guy" I had been seeing was killed! Which explained why he had not answered my calls. I had also learned that I was the last person he spoke to, and the mean texts as well as rude voicemail I had left him did not look to good on my behalf. Finally after hrs of explaining I was cleared of any involvement (Whheeww... wiping sweat off forehead)
A couple tears and many condolences later, I got through it

Ironically... there's a new guy who I really like but can't seem to figure out!
Anyways he is in New York for the week.. (my how the tables have turned huh)... and he has not been answering my calls... thinking how my PIMP HAND used to be so strong and I just might be loosing my touch, I proceeded to cuss him out and let that be that. #DEAD
So I receive a call from him this morning learning his cousin had been shot... like really Ashley you had to add injury to insult you just cussed him out at a time like this SMH. All I could do was apologize
Maybe I need to keep the beast in the cage and give people a chance....

TALK ABOUT DEJA-VU!
So I have decided to create a 30 day challenge, of recreating myself and my attitude... this marks day 1 I will keep you posted.

Who said all that glitters isn't gold?: They say...There is Always Someone for That Somebo...

Who said all that glitters isn't gold?: They say...There is Always Someone for That Somebo...: "'There is always someone for that somebody' Although I hear the saying all too often especially when I am with my mom and I see someone who..."

They say...There is Always Someone for That Somebody.

"There is always someone for that somebody"
Although I hear the saying all too often especially when I am with my mom and I see someone who is... "Less than favorable" (That is the phrase I am going to start using rather than ugly) and I turn my face up at them wondering how they got like that... I know rude but completely honest. I really wonder is there someone for that somebody... or are there some people who are just so unappealing they never find that somebody?

Sometimes I boggle my brain with questions that may never have a real answer... but I love the challenge of really trying to figure it out :) For example, on yet another HORRIBLE DATE! the question arose do people only get one opportunity to truly fall in love, and is all the rest just lust and smoke screens. Trying my hard to disagree with his theory that there is only one "Chosen One" for everyone and being purposely defiant in hopes that he would get so sick of my "no it all ways" and take me home! I put on the act, completely confident that people will experience more than one love throughout their lifetime... MISSION ACCOMPLISHED! Getting tired of my continuous "I don't think that is the way it goes," he brought me home!!! But after further thought I began to really believe my theory. I think everyone does have the opportunity to have more than one love in their lifetime... Hence the word “opportunity”. I think most do not give it the chance though. For example, I meet a guy he seems ideal, good job, nice car, good head on his shoulders and I fall in love...unfortunately things do not work out. Now scenario #2. I meet a guy, good looking, no car fashionably clueless and I look the other way... Suppose I gave him the time of day! That could have potentially been love interest #2. But I let materialism and superficial things get in the way.
So after my theory I hope everyone really learns that sometimes it’s best to not judge a book by its cover... remember you can always change someone’s appearance, but you cannot change their hearts.

My head scratcher of the day.

I have to start this one off with a question... so lately I have been talking to a copule new faces ( nothing serious) and I have noticed their grammer is a bit off. I kno in this day and age when your texting the english does not have to be perfect but when guys are saying when will you be (hear)... ( I can only help but wonder does he know h-e-a-r is the hear that is accociated with the sense). I.E can you hear me? Now for my question... was I wrong for not writing back and wondering if he was an idiot. I know I am not the brightest bulb in the box but I refuse to associate myself with a man who cannot spell or even distinguish between similar words with different meanings ( I know there is a word for them, just cant think of it.)
I guess I just need to find a man who was an english major!

p.s if you are reading... now you will know why I did not respond to you.

Lessons from Ashley

My life must honestly be a sitcom... working in a hotel, my oh my the sights you see.
Between call girls, married men cheating, old men on porn rampages in their rooms... nothing seems to surprise me anymore. But today there was one thing that did. One of the regular's who comes here, reserves the room for only about 3 hrs ( keep in mind he pays 130.00) for those 3 hrs SMH! well today he tried to hit on me -_-. After checking him in for the umpteenth time, keeping in mind that he wants absolutely NO CALLS!, will not put any cards on file; strictly cash, and always requests a room by the side entry way, he has the nerve to go outside to take a call then come back with his wedding band missing. Wondering why he decided to take it off, when he always wears it even during his rampages with his "working women" he has the nerve to say, " What time are you off, let's do something"..... LIKE SIR REALLY?!?! I felt insulted. (1) because this is a married man. (2) because I know what the hell he is doing in my hotel and (3) he thought I would compromise the respect I had for myself, my money, and my job. After replying sorry that would not be a good idea, and letting him know I think he lost his wedding band... ( he got my drift)

But my real dilemma is... I was talkin to a... ( ex) I guess that's what I will call him, and I was telling him about all the cheaters that come through here... keep in mind I have only saw the men cheating. He had the nerve to say women are the same way( no he didn't)! Yes women cheat... let's be honest I have cheated numerous times BUT! men, don't know how to keep it in their pants. See, women cheat because of something they are lacking at home... man always working, never has time, etc... or maybe the sex just sucks but see men could have an excellent woman at home who cooks cleans, does her thing in the bedroom and they still cheat... I think it's just in their nature... so ladies next time your on the phone with your girl and she is talkin about how much of a dog her man is... DON'T BE TOO QUICK TO SAY, "I am so glad I have a good man", because chances are there are a couple things you don't know.

I share my experiences, because they are life lessons.

Are all the Good Men Becoming Extinct?

After going out on some of the worst dates I think known to man... I have to ask my self is it me? A... something must be wrong with me, that I keep attracting such flawed me... or B... I am SETTLING for flawed men.
In hopes to continue thinking so highly of myself I am going to go with B.
Here is what I have come to realize... otu of the single or claiming to be single 20' something men left in the world... note I did say the world because even men I have dated outside of Boston have proved my theories true! THEY ARE ALL FLAWED!... either you find a good man, with a good job, nice car ( and he still lives at home with mom) or you find a good man... but he's got kids and baby momma drama (smh) or here is the best one yet... you find a handsome man with an awesome personality, who thinks he is doing GREAT things but in all actuality he is not doing anything but aspiring... yahh ladies you know what I am talkin about those "aspiring rappers" or "aspiring basketball players" with no real job, no car, living off of whoever, and no real goals... yes those are the worst kind! There seems to be an epidemic of these kind of "men" and notice I use the term men loosely... So I leave myself and my readers to wonder... are all the good 20' something men extinct, or just endangered species?!?!

Let a Dog Roam and He will Find His Way Home.

This woman had it right!, above is a man featured in a Lost Dog poster, he was featured because he was cheating, hopefully this won't give too many ladies of Boston any ideas!! (hint hint)

In a sense I think a lot of women can agree that most men are Dogs. Not only because of their behavior at times, but also because they live up to a lot of sayings associated with these four legged creatures such as "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" Ladies if you met your man cheating... what makes you think you can change him? Sex.. no!...Cooking... no! ummm Spending your money on him... NO! at the end of the day he is just going to use you and be on to the next.

Most guys say Ashley your heartless.. no correction I'm in tune with the game.

Scenario of the day: Ladies, do you think your man is cheating... or is he not giving you the attention you think you deserve? Leave him alone! I mean sure it's going to be hard but leave him alone. Guys hate when you are not at their beg and call and when they see that you have invested time in something or even someone else THEY WILL COME CORRECT! and who know's by that time you might be onto BIGGER and BETTER things. - Goodluck and I hope today's advice will help with everyone who has been asking all these What should I do if... questions :)