DAY 1.

(LAWDAY MERCY) as my father would say with his over the top Jamaican accent
Yes I did it again, managed to get myself in yet another.... Rut I (guess would be the only appropriate word)

So, last year I was talking to a guy; who was really nice; he had goals was extremely outgoing, and the fact he could dress his A** off was an added addition. About a month and a half went by of continuous dates and everything seemed to be going okay ( well to me at least) One weekend I decided to go to N.Y with my best friend at the time and a couple days had passed and he did not call. Trying not to sweat it, it was still getting to me. So I called a couple of times no answer, sent a few texts STILL NO ANSWER! thinking this dude is really trying to blow me off and my ego being hurt more than anything. I proceeded to cuss him out via voicemail seeing as that was the only way he owuld hear my voice. and I let that be that, and figured I'd find a lil' N.Y thing to replace him ;)
I soon came home and recieved a blocked phone call, hesitant to pick up because ASHLEY and blocked calls have never been fond of eachother I deciede to anyways, and to my surprise it was the BPD and for those no too familiar with acronyms a.k.a Boston Police Dpeartment. They asked me would I be available to talk. With an episode of the first 48 running through my mind scared SH*TLESS all I could think was what did I do? Upon entering the interrogation room I was sat down and informed that the "guy" I had been seeing was killed! Which explained why he had not answered my calls. I had also learned that I was the last person he spoke to, and the mean texts as well as rude voicemail I had left him did not look to good on my behalf. Finally after hrs of explaining I was cleared of any involvement (Whheeww... wiping sweat off forehead)
A couple tears and many condolences later, I got through it

Ironically... there's a new guy who I really like but can't seem to figure out!
Anyways he is in New York for the week.. (my how the tables have turned huh)... and he has not been answering my calls... thinking how my PIMP HAND used to be so strong and I just might be loosing my touch, I proceeded to cuss him out and let that be that. #DEAD
So I receive a call from him this morning learning his cousin had been shot... like really Ashley you had to add injury to insult you just cussed him out at a time like this SMH. All I could do was apologize
Maybe I need to keep the beast in the cage and give people a chance....

TALK ABOUT DEJA-VU!
So I have decided to create a 30 day challenge, of recreating myself and my attitude... this marks day 1 I will keep you posted.

Who said all that glitters isn't gold?: They say...There is Always Someone for That Somebo...

Who said all that glitters isn't gold?: They say...There is Always Someone for That Somebo...: "'There is always someone for that somebody' Although I hear the saying all too often especially when I am with my mom and I see someone who..."

They say...There is Always Someone for That Somebody.

"There is always someone for that somebody"
Although I hear the saying all too often especially when I am with my mom and I see someone who is... "Less than favorable" (That is the phrase I am going to start using rather than ugly) and I turn my face up at them wondering how they got like that... I know rude but completely honest. I really wonder is there someone for that somebody... or are there some people who are just so unappealing they never find that somebody?

Sometimes I boggle my brain with questions that may never have a real answer... but I love the challenge of really trying to figure it out :) For example, on yet another HORRIBLE DATE! the question arose do people only get one opportunity to truly fall in love, and is all the rest just lust and smoke screens. Trying my hard to disagree with his theory that there is only one "Chosen One" for everyone and being purposely defiant in hopes that he would get so sick of my "no it all ways" and take me home! I put on the act, completely confident that people will experience more than one love throughout their lifetime... MISSION ACCOMPLISHED! Getting tired of my continuous "I don't think that is the way it goes," he brought me home!!! But after further thought I began to really believe my theory. I think everyone does have the opportunity to have more than one love in their lifetime... Hence the word “opportunity”. I think most do not give it the chance though. For example, I meet a guy he seems ideal, good job, nice car, good head on his shoulders and I fall in love...unfortunately things do not work out. Now scenario #2. I meet a guy, good looking, no car fashionably clueless and I look the other way... Suppose I gave him the time of day! That could have potentially been love interest #2. But I let materialism and superficial things get in the way.
So after my theory I hope everyone really learns that sometimes it’s best to not judge a book by its cover... remember you can always change someone’s appearance, but you cannot change their hearts.

My head scratcher of the day.

I have to start this one off with a question... so lately I have been talking to a copule new faces ( nothing serious) and I have noticed their grammer is a bit off. I kno in this day and age when your texting the english does not have to be perfect but when guys are saying when will you be (hear)... ( I can only help but wonder does he know h-e-a-r is the hear that is accociated with the sense). I.E can you hear me? Now for my question... was I wrong for not writing back and wondering if he was an idiot. I know I am not the brightest bulb in the box but I refuse to associate myself with a man who cannot spell or even distinguish between similar words with different meanings ( I know there is a word for them, just cant think of it.)
I guess I just need to find a man who was an english major!

p.s if you are reading... now you will know why I did not respond to you.

Lessons from Ashley

My life must honestly be a sitcom... working in a hotel, my oh my the sights you see.
Between call girls, married men cheating, old men on porn rampages in their rooms... nothing seems to surprise me anymore. But today there was one thing that did. One of the regular's who comes here, reserves the room for only about 3 hrs ( keep in mind he pays 130.00) for those 3 hrs SMH! well today he tried to hit on me -_-. After checking him in for the umpteenth time, keeping in mind that he wants absolutely NO CALLS!, will not put any cards on file; strictly cash, and always requests a room by the side entry way, he has the nerve to go outside to take a call then come back with his wedding band missing. Wondering why he decided to take it off, when he always wears it even during his rampages with his "working women" he has the nerve to say, " What time are you off, let's do something"..... LIKE SIR REALLY?!?! I felt insulted. (1) because this is a married man. (2) because I know what the hell he is doing in my hotel and (3) he thought I would compromise the respect I had for myself, my money, and my job. After replying sorry that would not be a good idea, and letting him know I think he lost his wedding band... ( he got my drift)

But my real dilemma is... I was talkin to a... ( ex) I guess that's what I will call him, and I was telling him about all the cheaters that come through here... keep in mind I have only saw the men cheating. He had the nerve to say women are the same way( no he didn't)! Yes women cheat... let's be honest I have cheated numerous times BUT! men, don't know how to keep it in their pants. See, women cheat because of something they are lacking at home... man always working, never has time, etc... or maybe the sex just sucks but see men could have an excellent woman at home who cooks cleans, does her thing in the bedroom and they still cheat... I think it's just in their nature... so ladies next time your on the phone with your girl and she is talkin about how much of a dog her man is... DON'T BE TOO QUICK TO SAY, "I am so glad I have a good man", because chances are there are a couple things you don't know.

I share my experiences, because they are life lessons.

Are all the Good Men Becoming Extinct?

After going out on some of the worst dates I think known to man... I have to ask my self is it me? A... something must be wrong with me, that I keep attracting such flawed me... or B... I am SETTLING for flawed men.
In hopes to continue thinking so highly of myself I am going to go with B.
Here is what I have come to realize... otu of the single or claiming to be single 20' something men left in the world... note I did say the world because even men I have dated outside of Boston have proved my theories true! THEY ARE ALL FLAWED!... either you find a good man, with a good job, nice car ( and he still lives at home with mom) or you find a good man... but he's got kids and baby momma drama (smh) or here is the best one yet... you find a handsome man with an awesome personality, who thinks he is doing GREAT things but in all actuality he is not doing anything but aspiring... yahh ladies you know what I am talkin about those "aspiring rappers" or "aspiring basketball players" with no real job, no car, living off of whoever, and no real goals... yes those are the worst kind! There seems to be an epidemic of these kind of "men" and notice I use the term men loosely... So I leave myself and my readers to wonder... are all the good 20' something men extinct, or just endangered species?!?!

Let a Dog Roam and He will Find His Way Home.

This woman had it right!, above is a man featured in a Lost Dog poster, he was featured because he was cheating, hopefully this won't give too many ladies of Boston any ideas!! (hint hint)

In a sense I think a lot of women can agree that most men are Dogs. Not only because of their behavior at times, but also because they live up to a lot of sayings associated with these four legged creatures such as "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" Ladies if you met your man cheating... what makes you think you can change him? Sex.. no!...Cooking... no! ummm Spending your money on him... NO! at the end of the day he is just going to use you and be on to the next.

Most guys say Ashley your heartless.. no correction I'm in tune with the game.

Scenario of the day: Ladies, do you think your man is cheating... or is he not giving you the attention you think you deserve? Leave him alone! I mean sure it's going to be hard but leave him alone. Guys hate when you are not at their beg and call and when they see that you have invested time in something or even someone else THEY WILL COME CORRECT! and who know's by that time you might be onto BIGGER and BETTER things. - Goodluck and I hope today's advice will help with everyone who has been asking all these What should I do if... questions :)